Eventually, though, alienation occurs, as it did with Amnon in his lustful, one-sided relationship with his half-sister, Tamar (II Samuel 13:1-15). See what over 145,000 subscribers are already receiving each day. And, Absalom fled and went to Talmai the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur, : Absalom did not go to a city of refuge because he was guilty, and the cities of refuge were only meant to protect the. Beware the suspicious claim that Amnon loves Tamar. The Berean: Daily Verse and Comment Sign up for the Berean: Daily Verse and Comment, and have Biblical truth delivered to your inbox. We use cookies to let us know when you visit our websites, how you interact with us, to enrich your user experience, and to customize your relationship with our website. With the help of his friend Jonadab, Amnon devises a plan to be alone with Tamar. I am convinced that the three greatest things for the healing of a relationship are Love, Acceptance, and Forgiveness. He certainly was not the last person to do this, and lust often masquerades as love. He is in "love" with his virgin half-sister Tamar, David's daughter by Maacah. 11-12 and ch. b. I love Tamar: As later events will show, he did not love Tamar at all. [i] Amnon’s lusting infatuation for Tamar cannot be legally satisfied. : Amnon probably thought he had concealed his crime. We now find Amnon, David's firstborn, unable to govern his passions. David was never this dominated by lust, but he was pointed in the same direction. When this happens, these secondary elements become vital to the relationship. Amnon should have been punished and Tamar exonerated. It is Jonadab who puts the idea into Amnon’s head that there is a way to be alone with Tamar with David’s blessing, by … Absalom was her brother and Amnon her half-brother. But Absalom fled and went to Talmai the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur. It was even more difficult for him because. 8 So Tamar went to the house of her brother Amnon, who was lying down. So the servants of Absalom did to Amnon as Absalom had commanded: God promised David that the sword shall never depart from your house (2 Samuel 12:10) in judgment of David’s sin. But when King David heard of all these things, he was very angry. i. b. Absalom fled and went to Geshur: This made sense for Absalom because his mother’s father was the king of Geshur (2 Samuel 3:3). If he was alone with Tamar because David commanded it, then it gave part of the responsibility to David. The power of lust is strong enough to twist the way we see reality. It was a garment of privilege and status, showing the person did not have to work much. i. Amnon not only rapes the girl but cruelly humiliates her, for love has turned into htred. d. Please speak to the king; for he will not withhold me from you: The Law of Moses commanded against any marriage between a half-brother and half-sister (Leviticus 18:11). Let not my lord suppose they have killed all the young men: Jonadab brought the “good” news to David that only Amnon is dead, and dead because he forced his sister Tamar. Then Amnon hated her exceedingly, so that the hatred with which he hated her. From this and other passages, it appears that David was generally indulgent towards his children. Amnon fell in love, but he didn’t fall sick; he “made himself ill,” which lets us know he’s back in charge of his verbs. Tamar was the daughter of King David and Maacah, who was the daughter of Talmai, king of Geshur. Amnon son of David. 13 Now Absalom, David's son, had a beautiful sister, whose name was Tamar. We may request cookies to be set on your device. For only Amnon is dead.” Then Absalom fled. 3 But Amnon had a friend, whose name was … : This made sense for Absalom because his mother’s father was the king of Geshur (2 Samuel 3:3). If you do not want that we track your visit to our site you can disable tracking in your browser here: We also use different external services like Google Webfonts, Google Maps, and external Video providers. They have a half-brother, Amnon (2 Sam. ©2018 David Guzik – No distribution beyond personal use without permission. ii. : Amnon showed by this that everything he told David was a lie. Put this woman out… bolt the door behind her. Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying, “Watch now, when Amnon’s heart is merry with wine, and when I say to you, ‘Strike Amnon!’ then kill him. (30-36) David learns of the murder of Amnon. Despite the biblical prohibition on sexual relations between half-brothers and sisters, Amnon had an … The Tamar of Genesis 38 is, in some sense, the Tamar of 2 Samuel 13 through the looking glass. And she took the pan and placed them out before him, but he refused to eat. 3. : The Law of Moses commanded against any marriage between a half-brother and half-sister (Leviticus 18:11). “Nothing is more unsafe to be trusted, than the fair looks of a festered heart.” (Trapp). 8 J.A. So Amnon, with the help of cousin Jonadab, devises a scheme whereby he feigns sickness and Tamar is commanded by David to feed and nurse him. But Absalom fled and went to Talmai the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur. He dealt with the guilt by being soft and indulgent with his children. In this single-minded lust, Amnon only built upon the example of his father David. (23-27) Absalom invites all the king’s sons to a feast. After this Absalom the son of David had a lovely sister, … Amnon probably came to the feast nervous about being with Absalom, but after a few cups of wine he was relaxed. If David had administered Biblical correction according to Exodus 22:16-17 and Deuteronomy 22:28-29, Absalom would not have felt so free to administer his own brutal correction. All of this blossomed from an uncontrolled desire in the mind of one person. The fruit of his shameful deed was further defiled when his feelings for her reversed to a hatred against her that was greater than his former "love." He then compounded that sin by lying to his father to be alone with her and raping her when he finally was. John W. Ritenbaugh The payment was meant to compensate for the fact that Tamar was now less likely to be married because she was no longer a virgin. These cookies are strictly necessary to provide you with services available through our website and to use some of its features. The Bereans "received the word with all readiness, and searched the Scriptures daily to find out whether these things were so" (Acts 17:10-11). She did not give place to the voice of shame saying, “This was somehow your fault.”. i. And it came to pass, after two full years, that Absalom had sheepshearers in Baal Hazor, which is near Ephraim; so Absalom invited all the king’s sons. He didn’t need to say, “And then force yourself on Tamar,” because in their shared wickedness, Jonadab and Amnon thought the same wicked thoughts. And King David longed to go to Absalom. His devious nature set the stage for future revenge. He asked David to allow Amnon and all the king’s sons to come to the feast. This story has got to be one of the saddest in all of scripture. Absalom has killed all the king’s sons, and not one of them is left. Amnon was so distressed over his sister Tamar that he became sick; for she was a virgin. : This was nothing but rape. This is definitely a partial fulfillment of this promise. : The idea behind the Hebrew phrase is that it was a robe extending all the way down to the wrists and ankles, as opposed to a shorter one. The Beast and Babylon (Part Nine): Babylon the Great. a. . Blinded by lust, Amnon would not see the inevitable result of his desire. You’re no longer a challenge. In many lustful relationships there is a combination of both love and lust but in Amnon’s attraction there was only lust. Jonadab, Amnon’s conspiring cousin, suggested that Amnon pretend to be ill in order to call for his half-sister to attend him. Blinded by lust, Amnon would not see the inevitable result of his desire. Then he called his servant who attended him, and said, “Here! this was. Tamar probably said this simply as a ploy to get away from Amnon. Like Gomer in Hosea, Israel prostitutes herself before her lovers/idols, who seem to promise much without demanding as much as God seems to require. b. Amnon was so frustrated over his desire for her and his inability to have her, that he made himself physically ill … Tamar was simply a reminder of his foolish sin. Have I not commanded you? Amnon knew that he could not have sex with his sister Tamar and so he came … 3:2) who longed after Tamar. a. c. Where could I take my shame? Tamar did whatever she could to avoid this and all the blame clearly rests on Amnon. Despite all this, Amnon spitefully treated Tamar as this woman. © Copyright - Enduring Word       |      . You are free to opt out any time or opt in for other cookies to get a better experience. When Tamar came to feed him, he grabbed her and raped her. His friend and cousin, Jonadab, devises a plan: Amnon will feign illness and request that David allow Tamar to come and prepare a meal at his side. He feigns ill… David’s multiple marriages (2 Samuel 3:2-5) and his adultery with Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11:2-4) displayed this same direction. Can we learn some lessons from the story of David and Absal… : Indeed, he was. Amnon did not know what to do about his infatuation, and he soon confided in a friend named Jonadab. He could have said to Amnon, “I know the evil that results when we don’t restrain our lusts and affections. Dear Guanocopious, The effort of purging the Enemy’s value of love has been slow and stagnant. The hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her: Amnon had no real love for Tamar, only lust – and so he immediately felt guilty over his sin. 3 Now Amnon had … c. Put this woman out… bolt the door behind her: Tamar deserved better treatment as an Israelite. Come, lie with me, my sister: Amnon’s evil naturally revealed itself. b. It may be that David was conscious of his own guilt in a similar matter and therefore felt a lack of moral authority to discipline his own son. He certainly was not the last person to do this, and lust often masquerades as love. Click to enable/disable Google reCaptcha. In the biblical narrative, she is the daughter of King David, and sister of Absalom. Amnon and Tamar a. Absalom fled and went to Talmai the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur: Absalom did not go to a city of refuge because he was guilty, and the cities of refuge were only meant to protect the innocent. Jonadab was a cousin to Amnon, being the son of David’s brother (2 Samuel 13:32). note the symmetry. Rape of Tamar. Amnon was Tamar’s half brother from another wife. c. So he let Amnon and all the king’s sons go with him: Absalom showed some of the same cunning we saw in Amnon. But this will always prompt you to accept/refuse cookies when revisiting our site. So much for lust producing good fruit! 2 And Amnon was so tormented that he made himself ill because of his sister Tamar, for she was a virgin, and it seemed impossible to Amnon to do anything to her. The dirty deeds had been done, and the painful penalties began to be exacted. He did not love her; he was lusting after her. And after a time Amnon, David's son, loved her. Note that blocking some types of cookies may impact your experience on our websites and the services we are able to offer. b. You can check these in your browser security settings. In the same verse Amnon refers to Tamar as ‘my brother Absalom’s sister.’ And so it goes, as the narrator emphasizes the intertwining relationships in this polygynous family. Here, clearly stated, is cause and effect. Amnon said to her, “Get up and get out!” ” – 2 Samuel 13:14-15, NIV. And as for you, you would be like one of the fools in Israel, : Tamar wisely asked Amnon to consider the result of his desire, both for her and for him. “As David had committed adultery, made Uriah drunk, and then murdered him: so Amnon committeth incest, is made drunk, and [is] then murdered.” (Trapp). However, those who prostitute themselves become entangled in a web of greed and deceit that obscures realities essential to a clear understanding of what is really happening. Tamar is described as a virgin and “beautiful,” and Amnon was highly attracted to her ( 2 Samuel 13:1–2 ). There are undoubtedly some damaged relationships here today. How many teen and/or young adult lives have been severely damaged by unwed pregnancy resulting from coveting? And Amnon was distressed to the point of making himself sick, on account of Tamar his sister, for … Do not be afraid. The tragic story of the rape of King David’s lovely daughter Tamar by her half-brother Amnon is a tale filled with intrigue, malicious abuse and rage. : Amnon’s behavior was clearly childish, and David indulged it. Amnon raped Tamar after Jonadab told him to pretend to be ill and ask for Tamar to care for him. b. It is childish to refuse food unless it is served the way we want it. Amnon acted like a baby. a. Jonadab was a very crafty man: Indeed, he was. 7. : This revealed Amnon’s attraction for Tamar for what it was – lust, not love. a Now Tamar put ashes on her … According to the Bible, Amnon (Hebrew: אַמְנוֹן‎, "faithful") was the oldest son of David, King of Israel, with his wife, Ahinoam, who is described as "the Jezreelitess". Here we have the story of the lust-driven affair of Amnon, one of David's sons, and Tamar, one of David's daughters, a half-sister of Amnon. Judah’s Tamar, rendered powerless, uses Judah’s sexual desire to right his wrong—at precisely the moment he leaves for sheep-shearing. This is often how the iniquity of the fathers is carried on by the children to the third and fourth generations (Exodus 20:5). Yet David’s lack of correction against Amnon contributed to this murder. (1 Chronicles 3:1, 2 Samuel 3:2) Although he was the heir-apparent to David's throne, Amnon is best remembered for the rape of his half-sister Tamar, daughter of David with Maachah. 1–22). Marriage to a sister or half-sister is forbidden by law. In 2 Samuel 13, Amnon lusts after his half-sister Tamar. Certainly a man never sees the worst of himself until it reappears in his child.” (Meyer), b. Absalom spoke to his brother Amnon neither good nor bad: Absalom played it cool. David's only daughter recorded in Scripture, Tamar is the full sister of Absalom. David was never, The hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. He’s conquered, and he’s off for new conquests. At that moment, Absalom gave the order to “Strike Amnon!” and they murdered him. If David had administered Biblical correction according to Exodus 22:16-17 and Deuteronomy 22:28-29, Absalom would not have felt so free to administer his own brutal correction. contrast Tamar’s identification as Absalom’s “sister”. Our website uses cookies to store user preferences. Then Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill; and when the king came to see him, Amnon said to the king, “Please let Tamar my sister come and make a couple of cakes for me in my sight, that I may eat from her hand.” And David sent home to Tamar, saying, “Now go to your brother Amnon’s house, and prepare food for him.” So Tamar went to her brother Amnon’s house; and he was lying down. Instead, violence expresses lust for power and control an unjustifiable desire to dominate another person made in the image of God. And the young man who was keeping watch lifted his eyes and looked, and there, many people were coming from the road on the hillside behind him. If you really love him and want him, make him wait. And Jonadab said to the king, “Look, the king’s sons are coming; as your servant said, so it is.” So it was, as soon as he had finished speaking, that the king’s sons indeed came, and they lifted up their voice and wept. In 2 Samuel 13, she is … We need 2 cookies to store this setting. 3. So Absalom fled and went to Geshur, and was there three years. "And it came to pass after this, that Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name [was] … It was a garment of privilege and status, showing the person did not have to work much. He didn’t need to say, “And then force yourself on Tamar,” because in their shared wickedness, Jonadab and Amnon thought the same wicked thoughts. Two years later, Absalom fooled David regarding what was in store for Amnon, persuading David to send Amnon right into an ambush (vv. Let not my lord suppose they have killed all the young men, : Jonadab brought the “good” news to David that. What the Bible says about : It is significant that David did not react to this news with disbelief. John W. Ritenbaugh Amnon was deceived by this blindness of lust. In his lust, Amnon did not allow himself to call Tamar his sister – instead, she was Absalom’s sister. Tamar probably said this simply as a ploy to get away from Amnon. When King David heard of all these things, he was very angry, : David was right to be angry, but he didn’t, Absalom spoke to his brother Amnon neither good nor bad, : Absalom played it cool. Tamar didn’t go to her father David because she knew he tended to be indulgent to his sons, and he excused all kinds of evil in them. “There is something exceedingly tender and persuasive in this speech of Tamar; but Amnon was a mere brute, and it was all lost on him.” (Clarke). Nevertheless, it was so obvious to Absalom that he immediately knew that Amnon was responsible. If you refuse cookies we will remove all set cookies in our domain. You can also change some of your preferences. Amnon was so tormented that he made himself ill because of his sister Tamar, because she was a virgin, and it seemed impossible to Amnon to do anything to her. Over, and over, time and again, the fellow will press and press until he has taken you to bed, and that’s the last you see or hear from him. Put this woman out, away from me, and bolt the door behind her.” Now she had on a robe of many colors, for the king’s virgin daughters wore such apparel. e. He forced her and lay with her: This was nothing but rape. Tamar deserved better treatment as a sister. He asked. (verse 15). And Absalom spoke to his brother Amnon neither good nor bad. This may be because he felt guilty that in having so many wives, children, and responsibilities of state, he didn’t take the time to be a true father to his children. If he was alone with Tamar because David commanded it, then it gave part of the responsibility to David. He continued the deception, so he could force himself upon Tamar in the bedroom. Amnon grew an infatuation with Tamar which in turned into lust. b. Absalom had sheepshearers in Baal Hazor: Sheep shearing was a festive time, and it was natural that Absalom had a great feast and invited Amnon and all the king’s sons. Amnon was sick with love for Tamar, but the fruit of the relationship shows it was not love but lust. When King David heard of all these things, he was very angry: David was right to be angry, but he didn’t do anything to either protect Tamar or to correct Amnon. Amnon seems to be a spoiled prince who always took what he wanted. He brings you flowers, but he’s pushing hard for a sexual relationship. Tamar and Amnon The story begins with Amnon, son of King David, sick with love for his sister Tamar. For Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar. She did not give place to the voice of shame saying, “This was somehow your fault.”. c. The king and all his servants wept very bitterly: David is rightly grieved at learning of the death of his eldest son, the Crown Prince Amnon. If he really loves you, he will. Then Tamar put ashes on her head, and tore her robe of many colors that, Tamar put ashes on her head, and tore her robe, : Tamar correctly treated this as a calamity and did not hide the truth that a terrible crime was committed against her. And as for you, you would be like one of the fools in Israel. 6. And Amnon said to her, “Arise, be gone!”. He opens the door for you. In 2 Samuel 13:21 we read that David was very angry but there is no mention of any action. His selfish and cruel behavior is the very antithesis of love (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). i. It destroyed the cohesiveness of David's family. at all. ii. Despite the biblical prohibition on sexual relations between half-brothers and sisters, Amnon had an overwhelming desire for her. Tamar deserved better treatment as a princess. His wicked advice to Amnon began a disastrous chain of events. 1. But now hold your peace, my sister. Then she took flour and kneaded it, made cakes in his sight, and baked the cakes. And Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. c. My brother Absalom’s sister: If Absalom was my brother then clearly Tamar was my sister. i. A child will often model a parent’s sinful behavior and will often go further in the direction of sin the parent is pointed towards. You can also read my blog on love, lust, and infatuation. Then all the king’s sons arose, and each one got on his mule and fled. Click to enable/disable _gid - Google Analytics Cookie. “Let me give a friendly, fatherly tip unto all of you young girls, who may be in the position of Tamar, in that you have some fellow who is really pressing hard to have sex with you. c. King David longed to go to Absalom: After three years, the sting of Amnon’s murder was not as sharp. Being the first born, Amnon was the crown prince – first in line for the throne of Israel. And I, where could I take my shame? And it came to pass, while they were on the way, that news came to David, saying, “Absalom has killed all the king’s sons, and not one of them is left!” So the king arose and tore his garments and lay on the ground, and all his servants stood by with their clothes torn. : As a cunning killer, Absalom waited until Amnon was relaxed and vulnerable. Amnon was attracted to Tamar for what he could get from her, not out of concern for her. It is childish to refuse food unless it is served the way we want it. . Tamar goes to Amnon’s house, so Amnon gets Tamar alone in his bed chamber. Where could I take my shame? 1 Now it was after this that Absalom the son of David had a beautiful sister whose name was Tamar, and Amnon the son of David loved her. c. But he refused to eat: Amnon showed by this that everything he told David was a lie. Two years later, Absalom invited Amnon and the rest of David’s sons to the sheepshearing, and at Absalom’s command, the servants killed Amnon when he was drunk (2 Sam 13:1–29). Amnon’s Tamar is likewise rendered powerless, but in contrast, it is Amnon’s sexual desire that renders her powerless. At that moment, Absalom gave the order to “, So the servants of Absalom did to Amnon as Absalom had commanded. In many lustful relationships there is a combination of both love and lust but in Amnon’s attraction there was only lust. Tamar was simply a reminder of his foolish sin. A robe of many colors: The idea behind the Hebrew phrase is that it was a robe extending all the way down to the wrists and ankles, as opposed to a shorter one. Also the king and all his servants wept very bitterly. b. And it came to pass, after two full years, that Absalom had sheepshearers in Baal Hazor, which. David reacted with mourning instead of disbelief. 23–29). His wicked advice to Amnon began a disastrous chain of events. i. Be courageous and valiant.” So the servants of Absalom did to Amnon as Absalom had commanded. ii. And his servant put her out and bolted the door behind her. Jonadab probably hoped to gain favor with David by bringing this more favorable news, but God knew that Jonadab set the whole course of events in motion with his wicked advice to Amnon (2 Samuel 13:3-5). He is very attentive. It produced burning hatred, and everyone felt great sorrow. Then Jonadab the son of Shimeah, David’s brother, answered and said, “Let not my lord suppose they have killed all the young men, the king’s sons, for only Amnon is dead. 4. David’s indulgence towards Amnon is repeated towards Absalom and he will meet a similar end. 10 Then Amnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food here into my bedroom so I may eat from your hand.” 11 But when she took it to him to eat, he grabbed her and said, “Come to bed with me, my sister.” Otherwise you will be prompted again when opening a new browser window or new a tab. Tamar did whatever she could to avoid this and all the blame clearly rests on Amnon. Amnon acted like a baby. b. Amnon lusted after Tamar and called it love. Amnon was sick with love for Tamar, but the fruit of the relationship shows it was not love but lust. Tamar’s Story. 2 Amnon became so obsessed with his sister Tamar that he made himself ill. She was a virgin, and it seemed impossible for him to do anything to her. : This was what Amnon wanted. And David mourned for his son every day. So Amnon's love for and subsequent hate of Tamar illustrates that even a relationship that is, in essence, altruistic may be expressed in a way that makes it dependent on secondary factors. 13 will be discussed in a later post. Amnon seems to be a spoiled prince who always took what he wanted. The name Absalom means “His Father’s Peace.” The name Amnon means “Faithful, Stable.” “None of them answered their names.” (Trapp), But Amnon had a friend whose name was Jonadab the son of Shimeah, David’s brother. Has Amnon your brother been with you: Amnon probably thought he had concealed his crime. Due to security reasons we are not able to show or modify cookies from other domains. You always can block or delete cookies by changing your browser settings and force blocking all cookies on this website. He sensed that Absalom was capable of such evil. Then Amnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food into the bedroom, that I may eat from your hand.” And Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them to Amnon her brother in the bedroom. Although he was the heir-apparent to David's throne, Amnon is best remembered for the rape of his half-sister Tamar, daughter of David and Maachah. Tamar is described as a beautiful 15 sister who obediently prepares sustenance in order to sustain her “sick” half-brother Amnon. Click on the different category headings to find out more. Will you not tell me?” Amnon said to him, “I love Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.” So Jonadab said to him, “Lie down on your bed and pretend to be ill. And when your father comes to see you, say to him, ‘Please let my sister Tamar come and give me food, and prepare the food in my sight, that I may see it and eat it from her hand.’”. Then Amnon said, “Have everyone go out from me.” And they all went out from him. 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